“An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
Conflict is open, hostile opposition caused by differing perspectives. In marriage, conflict is not only likely, but it is also inevitable. Conflict should not be confused with disagreement because as much as most conflicts involve hostility it is possible to have a disagreement without hostility. Conflict resolution is therefore the art of facilitating a peaceful outcome of a disagreement or argument.
Conflict arises from many things, but mostly, out of our own selfish desires and passions. We tend to focus on self—me, myself, and I, my ideas, my feelings, my rights, etc.—forgetting that another person is involved. This self-centredness tends to cloud our judgment and affect our ability to resolve conflicts appropriately.
No relationship is immune to potential conflict. It has been said that conflict is actually good in marriage if both partners approach it wisely. Not only does conflict stretch your limits, but it also helps you get to know each other better, reveals the need for change, and helps you to become tolerant of opposing views.
In the next five days, we will be journeying together to discover several important aspects of the conflict. They include the different personality traits in conflict, ways to manage conflict to the advantage of your relationship, how to fight clean, the healthy habits of conflict resolution, and the five languages of apology.