“Be yourself — not your idea of what you think somebody else’s idea of yourself should be.”
— Henry David Thoreau

At first glance, “knowing me, knowing you” almost sounds like a request; a humble plea. Depending on how you look at it, you could say it sounds like an instruction too. However you interpret this simple, four-word phrase, you will find that its meaning is as profound as it is personal. To know your partner is to know yourself, really.

You cannot possibly know another person better than you know yourself! If you’re ever going to get to know someone well enough to love and live with him/her, you first have to know yourself well. Failure to at least have a good understanding of the person you are will result in a struggle to understand your partner.

It’s not rocket science. If you still haven’t identified yourself after all these years of being in your own body, you’ll definitely have difficulty with understanding another person.
Knowing your partner involves taking deliberate steps to grow together in the love you both share. Two cannot work together except they both agree. Knowing each other requires intentional action from both parties. It begins with the decision to commit to knowing each other’s temperaments, hobbies, interests, and love languages. By so doing, you can daily learn new ways to love each other better.

In this module, commit to discovering your partner in ways you hadn’t thought about prior to now. Ask questions. Go out of your way to find out your partner’s likes and dislikes. Make a note of these things. Then, begin to work with this knowledge.

Dating, courtship, and marriage can be sweet if you do the work.